Mama Muse • Ze Wu

Hello, my name is Ze. I’m a proud single mother to a lively 3-year-old boy. I’m also a painter and currently pursuing a Real Estate certificate. In 2021, during the global pandemic lockdown, I gave birth to my son in the United States. While it was a challenging and often lonely experience, looking back, it remains one of the most special memories of my life.

 

What was your favourite thing about the newborn phase?

The thing I loved most about the newborn phase was the natural scent that babies carry. It’s something truly special, a soft, comforting fragrance that reminds me of the purity and newness of life. It felt as though this little person had just entered our world, full of possibilities and adventures waiting to unfold.

What did you find challenging about being a new mother?

Like many new mums, I was initially so focused on ensuring that my baby was fed, safe, and happy that I neglected my own well-being. I was consumed by the need to do everything perfectly, which left little time for me to recover after birth. The added challenge of going through this journey during a pandemic, without external support, made it even harder. I struggled to balance taking care of my baby while also caring for myself—particularly when it came to nourishing my body to recover from childbirth.

How were you supported during your postpartum period, and what would you change if you could go back in time?

I was mainly self-supported during my postpartum period. If I could go back, I would prioritise my health much more. I would plan ahead and ensure I had the proper nutrition to aid in my recovery even before giving birth. I would also work on shifting my mindset, knowing that everything would eventually fall into place. Less anxiety and a bit more self-compassion would have gone a long way in easing my postpartum challenges, including the moments of depression.

Top 3 essentials would be:

1. Body Oil:
   Body oil became a vital part of my self-care routine as a new mum. With the exhaustion of sleepless nights and the unpredictability of a newborn’s schedule, simply being able to take a shower felt like a small act of self-care. Massaging my skin with body oil not only nourished my skin but also helped to calm my mind during those chaotic moments.
   
2. Dried Dates:
   In my Chinese cultural background, dried dates have always been a staple ingredient in herbal teas, soups, and many traditional dishes. They're a powerful, affordable food that plays a key role in recovery, especially for women. I relied on them during my postpartum period for their nourishing qualities and as a reminder of home and tradition.
   
3. Coffee:
   Coffee became a must-have for me during my postpartum period. I know it can be a bit controversial in some cultures and conversations, as there's often debate about whether it's ideal to consume coffee so soon after giving birth. However, as a new mum with minimal help, coffee became one of the few moments where I could pause, enjoy a little time for myself, and feel mentally refreshed in the midst of the whirlwind of new motherhood.
   

Are there any rituals or practices during your 4th trimester you'd like to share?

During my pregnancy, which was fairly easy and peaceful, one practice I maintained throughout the final trimester was taking a walk every day. Even if it was just a short stroll, I made it a point to step outside and connect with the world around me. Maintaining a positive mood was my primary focus as I prepared for childbirth. The uncertainty of what lay ahead could easily lead to anxiety, especially with the physical discomfort of carrying a growing baby, which made sleep, and many other things difficult. However, getting outdoors each day—whether it was to enjoy a meal at a restaurant or simply grab a quick breakfast—helped me centre myself and regulate my emotions.

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