Mother to Emily & Charlotte - Melbourne, Australia
"I'm always surprised by what being a mum will teach me and I love watching my babies become strong, independent young women."
My name is Louisa and I'm blessed to be the mother of two beautiful miracle babies, Emily and Charlotte. I run my own business as a tarot card reader and intuitive massage therapist but also work in aromatherapy.
Due to an infection in my pelvis when I was a teenager, I was told that it was highly unlikely that I would be able to have children. My husband and I knew it may not happen for us, but after a great deal of trying, we were lucky enough to fall pregnant naturally with Emily, and then doubly blessed soon after she was born with Charlotte.
Motherhood has been, to date, the most challenging and rewarding thing I've done with my life. There are many scary moments but then there are many more beautiful, magical, and inspiring moments too. Now my girls are becoming teenagers themselves and it's a wild ride that I wouldn't change for anything. I'm always surprised by what being a mum will teach me and I love watching my babies become strong, independent young women.
What was your favourite thing about the newborn phase?
I loved the cuddles late at night when everyone else is asleep and the world is quiet. I had a rocking chair in her room and we would rock together to the sound of lullabies.
What did you find challenging about being a new mother?
The toughest part for me was when my husband had to travel and the kids were sick/teething. I had support during the daylight hours, but nights are super tough.
How were you supported during your postpartum period and what would you change if you could go back in time?
I had a very supportive husband, mother, and small group of friends to help during that period and ongoing. If I could go back and change anything, it would be how much I worried about the housework. I would simply spend more time being present with my children. The housework can wait, but they grow up so fast!
List your top 3 essentials for a new mother
Time out - don't be scared to ask for help so you can be at your best.
Support - let people help you. It doesn't mean you're not in charge anymore, it just means you're sharing the load.
A good clothes washer and dryer - just chuck everything in and let it take care of the work for you. Rest is more important.
Are there any rituals or practices during your 4th trimester you'd like to share?
I took baths and showers with my babies all the time. Skin-on-skin time in the water was very special. I also meditated while holding my babies. It allowed me to be present only with them and myself. This was more with my first child, as it was quite challenging once I had two, but it was a beautiful experience.
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