Mama Muse • Shona Brady
" Breastfeeding proved particularly challenging; it took me a solid five months to find my rhythm..."
Introduction
I’m a Managing Director for a global consulting firm and also serve as a Board Director. My husband and I have two wonderful children: Juliet, who is 7, and our son, Beau, who is 5. We were married for 10 years before deciding to start a family, as we wanted to travel and work overseas first. We spent several years living in New York, which was an incredible experience professionally and personally, before moving back to Melbourne to be closer to family for the birth and early years of our children. In my leisure time, I enjoy Pilates, shopping, and brunching with friends. I embrace life with gusto, believing in the mantra "go hard or go home," and I strive to make every moment count.
My favorite aspect of the newborn phase was the sheer wonder of watching my baby discover the world for the first time. Those quiet moments of cuddling, the first smiles, and the bond that formed were incredibly special. I cherished the days I could spend looking into their eyes and singing to them – Ave Maria, songs from the Sound of Music or sometimes I’d make up a song based on how I felt that day! I also loved being able to catch up on Netflix episodes while breastfeeding.
What did you find challenging about being a new mother?
The most significant challenge I faced was the loss of my identity. After the vibrant energy of New York City—its nightlife and constant buzz—returning to the quieter pace of Melbourne left me feeling isolated at home. Adjusting to the physical demands of caring for a newborn while navigating my new role as a mother was overwhelming at times. Breastfeeding proved particularly challenging; it took me a solid five months to find my rhythm, and even then, I could only do it comfortably at home. I had to strategically arrange pillows at my feet, under the baby, and tucked under my arms—it was quite the spectacle!
How were you supported during your postpartum period, and what would you change if you could go back in time?
I was incredibly fortunate to have strong support from my family, particularly my parents and my husband’s parents, who helped with childcare—and continue to do so! I am eternally grateful for their love and assistance. They ensured I had nutritious meals, that the babies were well cared for, and that I got enough sleep. My mum would whip up smoothies infused with vitamins, giving me the boost I needed to tackle the day ahead. Their dedication has been nothing short of remarkable. If I could go back, I would prioritize seeking professional support to help ease the transition with breastfeeding, emotional management, and overall recovery. I would also set aside a specific time each week to indulge in activities that brought me joy, whether it was a massage, brunch with friends, or a little shopping spree!
Top 3 essentials would be:
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Support network: Whether it's family, friends, or a local mother’s group, having a strong support system is crucial.
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Comfortable clothing: You’ll appreciate soft, easy-to-wear clothes that allow for movement and comfort. I loved wearing bamboo lounge wear – really breathable and comfortable to move in.
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Easy to prepare food: Easy-to-prepare snacks, food and lactation cookies are essential. Lunch / dinner pre-prepared and stocked up in the freezer also very helpful.
Are there any rituals or practices during your 4th trimester you'd like to share?
During the 4th trimester, I found it helpful to establish a daily routine that included gentle movement, like walking, to aid recovery. I also prioritized quiet bonding time, allowing us to connect deeply during those early weeks. Incorporating mindful practices, such as meditation or deep breathing, helped me manage stress and stay present. I made it a point to savor moments of skin-to-skin contact, which fostered a strong emotional bond. Additionally, I embraced the simplicity of routine tasks, like singing or reading, which enriched our interactions and made me feel more grounded in my new role.
Although the early days of motherhood are now behind me, I look back on that time with a heart brimming with fond memories—just thinking about it brings tears to my eyes! Those moments, filled with laughter, discovery, and the unique challenges of new parenthood, have profoundly shaped who I am today. Each milestone and tiny triumph still brings a smile to my face as I reflect on the beautiful journey of raising my little ones.
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